Prayerful Parenting Radio Messages. Fall 2019.

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Prayerful Parenting Fall 2019

Dr. Linda Karges-Bone

 1.Welcome to Prayerful Parenting©  This is Dr Linda Karges-Bone and we are falling into a new season of messages with strategies for creating a more warm, welcoming, and spiritually healthy home. Are you ready? In the book Freakonomics: A Rogue Economist Explores the Hidden Side of Everything, Steven Levitt and Stephen Dubner examine tons of data and attempt to cull out truths as to how we live and make decisions. Fascinating, especially  the chapter that looks at what matters most in helping to shape children who do well in school. There were some surprises. To sum it up, parents who want their children to become good students need to create a home situation in which the parents demonstrate the desired traits of a good learner. For example, reading books to your child is good, but having your child see you read and love reading is more powerful. One might say that it is who you are as a parent rather than what you do that matters most. Make one simple change and let your kids see you reading, every day. Galatian’s 5:9 : “A little yeast works through the whole batch of dough.”

 

2.Welcome to Prayerful Parenting© This is Dr Linda Karges-Bone and we are falling into a new season of messages with strategies for creating a more warm, welcoming, and spiritually healthy home. Are you ready? How would you like to know the secret to getting a private school experience for your children with a public school price tag? Here it is. Get involved. The research on parent engagement and its impact on pupil and school performance is impressive. Parents who show up and pitch are rewarded with higher test scores for kids and a sense of belonging for the entire family. Attending conferences. Helping with the garden or the carnival. Reading aloud to children. Having lunch at school occasionally. These things matter. Parents who invest in public schools have better public schools. Hand in hand, with our schools, we move all families forward.  Galatians 6:2 says : Help carry one another’s burdens, and in this way you will obey the law of Christ.

 

3.Welcome to Prayerful Parenting© This is Dr Linda Karges-Bone and we are falling into a new season of messages with strategies for creating a more warm, welcoming, and spiritually healthy home. Are you ready? If you have a child in college this Fall, especially at Mid-Term, remember this mantra: “15 To Finish”. Taking 15 credits per semester, students are most likely to graduate within 4 years and with a minimum of debt. Some studies show that today’s college grads are accruing $300,000 in debt and will never dig themselves out. As a prof who has spent three decades in the field, I believe this is true. If your child starts with 15 credits and wants to drop a class at mid-term, make sure that he or she does the following: 1) Meets with the advisor and the course professor; 2) Gets a tutor, free at most colleges; and 3) Is faithful in attending every class. Missing class is the reason most drop out, not poor grades or mean professors, no matter what they tell you. “`5 to finish” is a small step with huge payback. Galatian’s 5:9 : “A little yeast works through the whole batch of dough.”

4.Welcome to Prayerful Parenting© This is Dr Linda Karges-Bone and we are falling into a new season of messages with strategies for creating a more warm, welcoming, and spiritually healthy home. Are you ready? Like hibernating bears in the Fall, you and your children probably need more sleep. The research is compelling, for young and older brains. Sleep is essential and we’re not getting enough. The results: ADHD, memory problems, obesity, anger issues, and lack of creativity. So I ask you: Is it bedtime or “badtime” at your house?  Why is bedtime such a challenge for parents?  First, parents have allowed the busyness of the workplace and the culture at large to permeate the sacred times and traditions of family life. Mealtimes, bedtimes, worship, and holidays. These have all come under attack and all of them matter to a child and to his or her family. Second, parents often have authentic reasons for wanting to keep children up late….missing them while they work long hours or even because there is trouble in the marriage relationship and children become a buffer. Finally, parents are afraid to be parents, to make rules and keep them, and that is a shame. Your children need quality sleep as much as they need clean water, nutritious food, and a good education. Depriving them of sleep is wrong, a mistake for you and a tragedy for them. So, put the kids to bed early and spend some quality time with your spouse. We’ll all rest easier.

5.Welcome to Prayerful Parenting© This is Dr Linda Karges-Bone and we are falling into a new season of messages with strategies for creating a more warm, welcoming, and spiritually healthy home. Are you ready? This Fall, please be aware that Satan is having a field day destroying marriages. It is epidemic. Recently, I met with a young woman whose marriage was in trouble. Sadly, this has been a frequent event over the course of my adult life. When I asked the inevitable question, “Why?” She said, “I just don’t love him anymore.” Other versions of this, from both men and women include: “I never REALLY loved him or her”. Really?  Let me say this loud and clear:the “I never loved you” excuse is a lie. It is Satan’s code for “I want to do what I want.” Sleep with a stranger. Drink and Party. Be free from the demands of family. Fill in the blank. I am not the first counselor to suggest this. There are entire books and seminars devoted to the issue, but I am free and with you right now. If you hear this from your spouse or think it yourself, dial back the pity party and do a reality check. You are being duped and you are going to destroy everything. Drop the affair. Stop the online porn. Pour out the wine and get some help. You fell in love once. Do it again. Joel 2:25 says: “ I will restore to you the years the hungry locusts have eaten.” God can restore your “loveless” marriage with HIS love.

6.Welcome to Prayerful Parenting© This is Dr Linda Karges-Bone and we are falling into a new season of messages with strategies for creating a more warm, welcoming, and spiritually healthy home. Are you ready? Assess your home from a child’s viewpoint. As a new grandmother, or “Nana” as I prefer, I had to revisit the whole child proofing business and spend time on my hands and knees looking at outlets, inside drawers, and behind furniture. This triggered two things: 1) I spent some quality time with the vacuum cleaner attachments. A lot of time. 2) I started thinking about my own attitudes and dispositions from a child’s point of view. How present am I? How cheerful? How flexible? That is in my thinking, not my hips and knees! As a grandparent, I have a second chance with babies and I’m determined to put down my phone ( except when taking pictures of the little ones) and focus on what matters. It’s not too late for you. Phil 2:4:” Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.”

 

7.Welcome to Prayerful Parenting© This is Dr Linda Karges-Bone and we are falling into a new season of messages with strategies for creating a more warm, welcoming, and spiritually healthy home. Are you ready? Be generous.  “If you hold your hand closed, nothing good can come in. The open hand is blessed, for it gives in abundance, even as it receives.” —  This amazing quote is attributed to Biddy Mason, a freed African American slave who became one of the wealthiest Black women in early California and who went on to found churches and schools in Los Angeles. I came across Biddy Mason while visiting schools in the inner city of Long Beach, California.  Children were reading about Biddy Mason in a history book and I wondered if the power of her story and her beliefs was real to them. Her life was full of suffering and hard work, yet she has learned the power of grace and generosity. Biddy was blessed, because she blessed others. What do our lives look like to the children around us? Are our hands open and giving or do we have pointed, accusing fingers or closed, angry fists? And do we realize that our children are watching every movement? Acts 20 says it all: “It is more blessed to give than to receive. “

 

8.Welcome to Prayerful Parenting© This is Dr Linda Karges-Bone and we are falling into a new season of messages with strategies for creating a more warm, welcoming, and spiritually healthy home. Are you ready? This Fall, be open to sharing what you have. The story of Elijah and the widow resonates with me, because I bake bread in my bread machine several times a week and give it away. Tucking it into mailboxes or hanging brown bags on door knobs or leaving loaves on desks or porch chairs. Remember how the prophet told that poor woman to use her last flour and oil to make him some bread and then a miracle occurred?” The bin of flour shall not be used up, nor shall the jar of oil run dry, until the day the Lord sends rain on the earth.”  Are you afraid to give of your time, your talents, your energy, your resources because you are afraid there won’t be enough? Don’t overthink it. Over give. There will be more than enough. God has your back.

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